Fitting In: Not as Bad as It Seems

Honestly, fitting in isn't easy. You're probably saying, how would you know? Well I had to experience it when I moved to my current home right now two years ago. I was that one person who doesn't do well with change. It shook me every single time I would hear the word moving. Even though it wasn't even that big of a move, we still moved to a different state far away from all of the friends I had grown up with. I was worried about not being able to fit in and being left out. When you move or have to adjust to some sort of change, most people find something to worry about. Whether if its you're going to be late for school, getting lost on campus, or finding someone to eat lunch with. Of course, there are some people who are naturally good with change and fitting in. However, it isn't that hard to become one of those people. 

Confidence, Determination, Patience, Preparation, and Flexibility

Start with that confidence. If your confidence is down to the ground, it'll be difficult to find a way to fit in. You need to have the confidence to introduce yourselves to others and have the courage to not shrivel up in the corner by yourself at lunch instead of going up to a table and making a statement even if it fails. If it fails, say whatever and continue raising that confidence and keep approaching others! Next would be determination. Determination is the willingness you need to open up to others so you don't become a shy kitten and back out on everything. Patience is key. You might not end up with your next squad in the first ten seconds you talk to them. You need to wait, they need time too to process having another best friend because friends mean commitment. No one wants a friend who doesn't commit. Preparation is another important factor because if you do not prepare for the outcome, it might drop your confidence which is not good at all. If you get rejected, who cares, it's their loss! Flexibility is important because to make a friend, it never can only be your way. You need to be flexible even if they aren't identical to your previous close friends because then you never will find a way to open up to them. From my experience, if I never had approached anyone and had no flexibility to be friendly on the first day of school, I don't think I would have any friends. Take my advice and be all of the 5 words above because in a situation like this, that might be your one way ticket (or five way) to fitting in.